5th Tenet of the Code: Be a Three-Dimensional man
As men’s weekend graduates, we strive to be multidimensional men. The three-dimensional-man model from the men’s weekend serves as a powerful guide: One part Clint Eastwood, one part Mahatma Gandhi and one part Curly from the Three Stooges. We hold that these three examples embody the aspects of manhood necessary to be a well-rounded man.
Clint: The unshakeable determination to trust our gut, dig in and get the job done.
Gandhi: The spiritual force that connects us to one another and provides the resolve to endure great sacrifice to pursue a higher purpose.
Curley: The wisdom to avoid taking ourselves too seriously and to not be overly preoccupied with how others view us, which allows us to be true to ourselves.
Simply put, to succeed, a man must have depth of character and should strive to be well rounded. He must learn to access a range of resources in his ”tool belt.”
Few men succeed in maintaining a balance among their many dimensions. And many men struggle to embrace a dimension that is just not within them. It is hard to imagine Curley on a hunger strike, Gandhi imploring some punk to “Make my day,” or Clint doing the Curley Shuffle. And therein lies the challenge.
Identify the dimension that represents your strength and draw from the men who embody the dimensions that are weak in you so that you learn other ways of being.
It is not hard to spot these men. You probably have already identified them in your circle. They are the men who push your buttons; whose priorities make no sense to you; whose way of being is foreign to you and uncomfortable for you to embrace. And yet these men have the most to offer you and you have the most to offer them. To work in harmony with them is to be at the intersection of the three circles, to be at the center of your masculine power.